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Aries Designer Sofia Prantera On Subcultures Thriving In The Age Of Instagram

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“I had struggled with reconciling my love for fashion, beautifully made and cut clothes, and sartorial experimentation with the love for street wear, anti-fashion youth movements and trash culture in general,” writes Sofia Prantera, designer and cofounder of cult label Aries, in her brand manifesto, “so we decided that Aries should encompass all these elements.”

Alongside Fergus Purcell, the creator of the iconic Palace triangle logo, with whom she first worked on pioneering '90s brand Silas, Sofia has created the ultimate hybrid, where fashion meets streetwear, luxury meets underground. At brands like Off-White, streetwear manifests as athleisure and can feel reserved for Gen Z, but Aries' amalgamation – despite its skatepark roots – appeals as much to Supremacists and hypebeasts as it does your Matches Fashion customer. The brand's laconic tees can be worn with a bucket hat, oversized denim and kicks, its silk shirts teamed with a Stella McCartney suit. Aries defies definition.

The London-based, Italian-crafted label was established as a womenswear brand in 2012, and in a male-dominated streetwear landscape, changed the narrative by making oversized long-sleeved tees and irreverent and referential graphics a new offering for women (though a reflection of what Sofia had been wearing all along). Demand grew and Aries expanded to include men’s sizes, so it’s now genderless or unisex or whatever you want to call a label that doesn’t care who you are, it just wants to dress you. “I have always designed and dressed in some sort of unisex way, but when we started Aries, it did seem outdated to be making different T-shirts for men and women,” Sofia tells Refinery29. “But it was an instinct, not a real plan.”

As well as breaking down the confines of gender within streetwear, you could argue that Sofia and Fergus predicted fashion’s new informality, long before Virgil Abloh’s neon and logo-driven label was crowned 2018’s Hottest Brand. Of course, hindsight is a beautiful thing. “I would love to say that I saw the future and had some kind of vision that tees and jeans was the way forward but, again, I didn't articulate it that way at the time,” says Sofia. Instinct is what seems to drive Aries – an intuition of what’s relevant, what’s cool, what’s going to capture the zeitgeist while simultaneously recalling tenets of the past.

Most recently, that intuition has inspired a collaboration with the artist Jeremy Deller, which centres around the mysteries of Stonehenge. As always, Aries' signature pithy humour is there, with T-shirts emblazoned with winky smiley faces (the eyes represented by the prehistoric standing stones) and the phrases 'Make Archeology Sexy Again' and 'Stonehenge: Built by Immigrants'. The moody campaign was shot by legendary photographer David Sims and an accompanying exhibition, Wiltshire Before Christ, was hosted at The Store X on London's Strand.

To celebrate Aries' SS19 collection, all pastel tie-dye tees meets electric animal print bowling shirts meets soft crepe tailoring, we asked Sofia about her obsession with subcultures, how underground movements can thrive in the digital age, and the films, podcasts and spaces inspiring her right now.

Hi Sofia! What first drew you to London?

My mother is English, and we used to come here on holiday, and both my sister and I moved here to study art at a young age. I think my mother subconsciously pushed us to leave Italy and make something of ourselves. She used to bring back fashion and culture magazines like i-D and The Face plus some art college prospectuses. I wanted to do maths at uni but had this fascination with club culture and fashion that eventually took over.

Tell me about your time at Central Saint Martins.

It was really fun, though I am not sure we were taught much. All the other students were so interesting and creative – I had no idea what I was doing and was a pretty average student 🙁 I had zero creativity. In Italian schools you don't do any art at all. I remember looking at other people's work and thinking, How did they come out with that idea? I had zero ideas.

I read a tutor there told you that streetwear wasn't fashion – what was your response?

It was me and two other boys in my class that had done a streetwear project and we just laughed, you know, in that arrogant way that young people have when they think they – and often do – know best.

After graduation you were working at Rough Trade / Slam City Skates with Russell Waterman, with whom you went on to found Silas. What was your mission with the label?

After a while of going into work without any specific responsibilities (although I did fold a lot of T-shirts), Russell, who was employed but sort of ran the company, suggested we did our own in-house label, so we started a new brand called Holmes. We eventually got frustrated of not being able to run it as we felt was right and decided to leave and start a new brand. Silas Holmes was the name of the fictitious character in charge of designing Holmes, but we left the name Holmes behind and started Silas.

Did you predict how successful Aries would be when you began?

No. No one really understood it, but it was my fault really, as I can be very introverted, especially about my work; I find it difficult to talk about it. I would love to say that I saw the future and had some kind of vision that tees and jeans was the way forward, but I didn't articulate it that way at the time – I just did what I do and left it there for other people to sell and understand. I had been out of work for a few years and I wasn't very confident about my vision. It is easy now to look back and say I was right all along, but I didn't know that then.

Your work is so tied up with counterculture and subcultures. Why do you think you're so drawn to them?

I think it’s partly my education, as my parents are quite nerdy. My dad collects political comics like Métal Hurlant, Il Mago; there isn't a proper British equivalent but they’re actually quite highbrow. The content mixes adult comics and political writings and they were part of the counterculture movements of the '70s and '80s, mainly in France and Italy. We were brought up reading them. It is also generational, I think: a lot of people my age were inspired to take different career paths by following and belonging to subcultures.

Italy has this legendary fashion scene – do you think your nationality has shaped your work?

Growing up in a mixed-culture family it is difficult to know which part influenced what, and it is possibly the mix that was the most influential in what I chose to do in my career. I think the nature of being dual nationality creates this tension in your output. It is like you are constantly trying to find a balance.

Streetwear has typically been a male-dominated area. Do you think that's changed over time?

Possibly. I think there might be a social element to why subcultures are predominantly male-dominated; it could be because, historically, women would have had children and looked after families. As the position of women in society changes, we will see more change. Often, though, subcultures – especially streetwear – are led by obsessions, and I think on the whole women tend to have less obsessive behaviour. This might be both cultural and genetic, so I’m not sure.

Did you ever struggle being the only woman in the room?

No I didn't, as I have always enjoyed being different. But it is quite possible that had I been male, I would have found success earlier in my life.

How do you feel subcultures have evolved or changed in the era of social media?

I think the real subcultures are the ones you don't see on social media. Our classic notion of a slow-building underground movement and its subsequent, unavoidable commercial exploitation and promotion by the mainstream has ceased to exist because of the power of social media; everything burns too fast.

But they do still exist – not as fashion but as counterculture. Interestingly, I don't think it's generational, and to survive in its original form it has to insulate itself against exploitation by being truly underground and therefore, out of necessity, be unattractive to potential mainstream audiences. So maybe this makes it more of an underground than ever before.

Finally, what does rebellion mean to you?

Going your own way.

Five overlooked cultural highlights inspiring Sofia right now…

'80s magazine Frigidaire

“It is an Italian underground magazine which was very formative for me growing up. It dealt with information, counterculture, taboos, comics. It was very left-field and a very important part of my development.”

Bruno Bozzetto's VIP My Brother Superman

“Just an amazing and very overlooked Italian animation film that deals with consumer culture. Extremely beautiful and ahead of its time.”

Scorpio Rising by Kenneth Anger

“Kenneth Anger has also always been very ahead of his time. Scorpio Rising deals with themes of extreme masculinity and fetishises clothing and dressing up. It's a must-view for anyone interested in fashion, subculture and their history.”

The Bomarzo Park, outside Rome

“A beautiful and forgotten monster park in the outskirts of Rome. Mysterious, bizarre and completely unique.”

Under the Skin with Russell Brand

“Russell Brand’s political podcast, where he interviews intellectuals and thinkers like Douglas Rushkoff, Yanis Varoufakis, Adam Curtis, Brad Evans and Henry Giroux to name a few. They are very simple yet deep, inspiring and funny.”

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I Went To The World's Biggest Lesbian Festival & Here's What Happened

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I first heard about the cult lesbian festival Dinah Shore the same way that most lesbians do, from what often feels like our one cultural reference point, the TV show The L Word. In the episode that features the festival, the show’s staple group of LA power lesbians embark on a roadtrip to Palm Springs, where they are confronted by a pumping all-women Spring Break pool party. A few of the characters hook up with strangers they meet (like Sex and The City, The L Word features several sexual encounters per episode), while the rest discover a weekend of inclusivity, fun and sun. The L Word painted Dinah as a sapphic playground, a weekend of dyketastic debauchery. Watching, I knew that one day I would have to go. When the opportunity finally came this year, I decided I would assemble a group and we would take on the festival together. A pack of lesbians on the prowl.

As well as wanting to come as close to being a character in The L Word as possible, the main reason I have always wanted to attend Dinah is the desire to know how it feels to be surrounded by so many other bisexual, lesbian and queer women. Often, as LGBTQ+ people, we endure periods of isolation; there were moments in my earlier life where I felt like I was the only person in the world who was the way I was… and I was one of the lucky ones, who eventually found a home in London, a city with queer female club nights and specialist lesbian dating apps. For some of the people visiting Dinah from across America and beyond, this would not be the case. I wanted to meet these people, and hear what the event gave them.

The festival itself has been running for 28 years, started in 1991 by a lesbian called Mariah Hanson at the Palm Springs Modern Art Museum, where lesbians reportedly drank martinis and mingled among millions of dollars worth of art. Chic. Gradually, it grew in size; later highlights included 2006, when The Pussycat Dolls played, 2009 when Lady Gaga made an appearance, and 2010 when Kesha performed. Today, it bills itself as a five-day weekend getaway for lesbians and queer girls, and the biggest event of its type in the world. Thousands of women attend, and there are almost a dozen main events, with other splinter or rival parties like Krave Spring Break, which focuses on including queer women of colour.

The official Dinah currently begins on a Wednesday, with a meet and greet pre-party, hotting up on the Thursday with an opening party at a bar in downtown Springs, before organisers Club Skirt begin their notorious three-day pool party schedule on Friday at the Hilton Palm Springs, where much of the festival takes place. Many Dinah partygoers choose to stay here, in the thick of the action, but instead I chose an Airbnb Plus nearby in Palm Springs, since I’ve always wanted to stay in one of the city's famous modernist homes, but also so that I could escape and have a nap when it all got a bit too much.

I decided to begin my Dinah journey on the Friday evening, at the Dinah Shore standup comedy night where the brilliant Fortune Feimster took to the stage with lines like: “I needed someone to come out for me… sit me down and be like, Fortune, YOU GAY.” From here, we moved over to the infamous (again, mostly because of The L Word) black and white party, which takes place in the sweeping carpeted halls of the Palm Springs Convention Centre. With a red carpet, big white wall drapes and soft purple lighting, it was – rather touchingly – like the lesbian prom I’m almost certain none of us ever had. Everyone seemed so comfortable making out with one another in a way that I had never witnessed among gay women. At one point, someone came on stage and started rapping about smoking “girl blunts” while dancers in thongs whipped their hair, shook their asses and collected dollar bills… Best prom ever.

On Saturday, my girlfriend, my friends and I finally decided to descend on the pool party. What should we bring, we debated? We chose all the lesbian essentials: me, an open shirt that made me look like a dad at a BBQ; my friend, a Patagonia rucksack full of practical items like sun cream; the rest, uniforms of tight white vests. As we approached the Hilton, the streets outside were lined with Subarus and pickup trucks, so I knew we were in the right place. Inside was a lesbian Garden of Eden, if the Garden of Eden was heavily branded by sponsors, full of women in snapback caps and served delicious canned wine.

At first, I was overwhelmed by the sheer scale of it – there must have been around a thousand women there, some making out in the pool, others chilling on their hotel room balconies. Meanwhile, “My Neck, My Back” blasted from the speakers as gay women of all ages grinded one another, twerked and slutdropped with abandon.

Once we became acclimatised, we started to relax, dance, and talk to other women. Charlotte, 27, from New York told me that as a “baby dyke” (lexicon for someone who is newly gay or exploring their sexuality), she had never felt hotter than at Dinah. “This is a pretty new scene for me but I feel completely welcome and I’m celebrating a part of myself that I used to hide.” Two glamorous women from Orange County told me they were a new couple, there for a romantic weekend away together. An older woman told me that she’d rather we didn’t take her photo because she wasn’t out at home. Another woman was there on her hen do.

Isabella, 25, from Portland, said: “I came to Dinah as a bi woman for a fun queer girls weekend with my friends. I feel more comfortable with my body than I ever could have anticipated, as a fat person I’m loving the body diversity – I’m seeing a lot of chunky butts and stretch marks, which are all beautiful!” Her feelings about the event's diversity were echoed when founder Hanson got on stage and announced that at Dinah everyone was welcome (I later checked with the event's PR what this meant exactly – she confirmed that it meant people of all races and gender identities).

After the pool party (and a nap) we swapped out of our swimwear and headed back to the Convention Centre for the Saturday night Hollywood Party. Suddenly the red carpet made a lot more sense, as US influencers and vloggers like Mads Paige and Ambers Closet had their pictures taken and talked to their fans. A pop star called Daya played, women slow danced with one another, and I got so drunk that I passed out in my friend's boobs. My girlfriend (who didn’t seem to mind this) told me in the cab on the way home what the festival meant to her: “As a femme-presenting woman, it’s nice to be somewhere that people just assume you’re gay, rather than the other way around. I felt completely and openly myself.”

As for me, I decided to give the Sunday a miss in favour of some of the other things you can do in Palm Springs: hike, walk around downtown, drive out to Joshua Tree National Park. But the festival taught me a lot. I learned that you will never know all the lesbian lingo. I had no idea that a “stem” is a cross between a stud and a femme. Or that I am considered to be one. I wasn’t aware who any of the singers or the influencers were, which made me realise that there’s a lot more to lesbian culture than The L Word. And I discovered that, thanks to events like Dinah Shore, we needn’t all be alone or isolated. I went there with friends and I made many more. As for Dinah 2020, we’ll see…

Amelia Abraham is the author of Queer Intentions.

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Upskirting Is Now A Crime With A Maximum 2-Year Prison Sentence

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Today, the Government and I announced that they officially back my campaign and our bill to make upskirting a sexual offence. ?? When I launched this campaign everyone except my lawyer, Ryan (pictured here! ? ) and my family and friends said that the Government wouldn’t back this. They said I couldn’t do that. Well, today, they officially backed it. And not only do they back it, but minister Lucy Frazer is so passionately behind it and thinks the legislation we put forward is the right solution. ?✔️ With Theresa May speaking on the gap in PMQs and mass MPs from across every single party supporting us, it is official: the Government are going to make sure the gap in the law is closed. ?❌? Today is the second reading of our bill, so there’s still work to do, but, in the words of the Spice Girls ‘all I really, really really want is ziga-zig-ah’. I think that speaks to how Ryan and I are feeling right now. ???♥️

A post shared by Gina Martin (@beaniegigi) on Jun 15, 2018 at 12:26am PDT

Update (Friday 12th April 2019): Upskirting is officially a crime in England and Wales from today. Offenders who take a photo or video under someone's clothing will receive up to two years in prison, with the most serious offenders being placed on the sex offenders register, the Ministry of Justice announced. Campaigner Gina Martin said she was “so happy” to see the Voyeurism Act come into effect. “Finally we have a fit-for-purpose law that protects against every instance of upskirting – as we should have always had. But this is just the beginning. Please raise your voice and report if you are a victim or if you see someone become one – every report builds a picture so we can stop upskirting.”

Update (Tuesday 15th January 2019): The bill to make upskirting a sexual offence has passed its final stage at the House of Lords. (All that's left now is for the bill, which will make upskirting a crime in England and Wales, to gain Royal Assent.)

“The last 18-months of campaigning have been a steep learning curve,” 26-year-old Gina Martin, who was upskirted herself at a music festival 18 months ago and led the campaign against it, said today. “To the outsider, the ordinary person, law and politics are complex and daunting. But both are penetrable if you believe in yourself and find the right support.”

Update (1.30 pm. Monday 18th June 2018): The government announced today that it will be putting forward a bill to make upskirting a sexual offence, campaigner Gina Martin said on Twitter this afternoon. It follows the shock objection to the bill on Friday by a single Conservative MP, Christopher Chope, who has faced widespread condemnation, including from members of his own party, ever since.

“I said that we'd look back on Friday as the day one man tried to stand in the way of justice and didn't. But I didn't realise we'd be looking back on it so soon,” Martin wrote, adding that she was “so happy [she] could cry”. “The bill will go through. The Government, Ryan [Whelan] and I will finish this. Upskirting will be made a sexual offence.”

Update (3p.m. Friday 15th June 2018): The bill to make upskirting a specific crime was blocked when Conservative MP Sir Christopher Chope objected to it. It was expected to pass after the government earlier announced its support. It's not over yet, though… The next reading will be on 6th July.

Update (10a.m. Friday 15th June 2018): Upskirting is set to become a criminal offence punishable by two years in jail following a campaign led by 26-year-old Gina Martin. The Ministry of Justice said the government would support the private member's bill introduced by the Lib Dem MP Wera Hobhouse, who threw her weight behind the campaign.

“From the beginning of the campaign, so many people told me it would be impossible to get the government to back this campaign. But today, I can proudly say they have,” Martin told Refinery29 UK on Friday. “I sat with justice minister Lucy Frazier yesterday with my lawyer Ryan Whelan and we spoke about my campaign and the detail of the bill.

“It was clear that not only is Lucy supportive, but that she cares and is right behind my campaign. It’s so brilliant to know that not only does she really, truly care about this becoming a specific offence, but that she is impressed by our campaign and thinks the legislation we’ve put forward is the right solution. With Victoria Atkin MP passionately on board too, and so many other MPs from all parties truly believing in and standing behind our bill, the government is well and truly behind us.”

This story was originally published on Thursday 14th June.

It wasn't even a year ago that a man took an upskirt photo of Gina Martin during a gig in London's Hyde Park, but having taken on the issue and made national headlines with her campaign to change the law, the 26-year-old is close to making her mark on UK legislation.

Martin, who has held down her job as a writer throughout the gruelling campaign, has been working towards making upskirting – the act of taking an upskirt photo of someone without their consent – a sexual offence in England and Wales. Upskirting can currently be prosecuted, but only under 'voyeurism' if you are in a private place, or with a public nuisance order called 'outraging public decency' if you are in public. Martin and her 'partner in justice', lawyer Ryan Whelan, argue this is inappropriate as it fails to acknowledge upskirting as a crime with a victim and, crucially, it means perpetrators aren't recognised as sexual offenders.

Martin's campaign has gone from strength to strength since the pair teamed up, gaining attention from international media (and working alongside Refinery29 on a series of stories on the topic under #StopSkirtingTheIssue) as well as support from celebrities including Holly Willoughby and Laura Whitmore, the backing of MPs from across the political spectrum, endorsement from academic lawyers in the field, and support from police commissioners and more than 100,000 members of the public.

Excitingly, Martin and Whelan have also provided input on a bill that looks likely to become law. The Voyeurism (Offences) Bill 2017-19, which will make upskirting a specific sexual offence, was tabled by Lib Dem MP Wera Hobhouse and is due a second reading in the House of Commons on Friday 15th June. If it gets through parliament it could see perpetrators of upskirting be fined or receive a jail sentence of up to two years.

It feels amazing being able to hold a physical copy of the draft bill, Martin told Refinery29 UK in parliament yesterday, ahead of its second reading. “This has been almost a year coming so I'm really happy about it,” she said, adding that it's been worth the agony of having to recall her traumatic experience time and again throughout the campaign.

“It's been quite hard to continually retell it and not be able to let it go, but this will be closure when we change the law so it will have been totally worth having to tell it a thousand times a day.”

For a young woman with no previous campaigning experience or legal expertise, leading a movement of this size has been a learning curve, she said. “The most valuable thing I've learned is that if you want to change something, you can not like the system but you have to play within the system and do things the right way. You have to know exactly what you're talking about, ask for help and get the right people in with you. I couldn't have done it on my own, but we're not quite there yet!”

She's also learned a lot about herself along the way. “I've realised I'm more robust than I thought I was and that if you just keep going and don't give up you can actually change stuff. I thought I'd find it too hard but I just didn't stop and I'm really proud of myself for that.”

As well as changing the law, of course, Martin hopes to encourage more people to come forward regardless of what happens to them or how 'everyday' the assault is. “More importantly, I also want to have a conversation about how we treat women's bodies in public and how we normalise this type of behaviour.”

Whelan believes the law change would “without question” make it easier to prosecute people who upskirt. “The word 'upskirting' would exist in law as a specific offence, police officers in England and Wales would know about it, charging officers would know about it, the Crown Prosecution Service would use it, and so women will be safer,” he told Refinery29 UK. “They will be protected properly and appropriately and offenders dealt with in a way that's suitable.”

Laila Woozeer, 27, who was upskirted on a bus when she was 20 and wrote about her experience for Refinery29 UK, said it's been amazing watching the campaign unfold. “It's blown up so much and it just goes to show that upskirting is a universal issue that a lot of women can relate to. I couldn't believe it wasn't a sexual offence already.”

She said awareness of the issue has grown among her male friends, while her female friends have felt more comfortable to speak out. “They told me it had happened to them but they hadn't realised there was a term for it, they just thought it was a weird experience they'd had. Even just being able to name something makes it easier to deal with it.”

Woozeer believes the law change will make women more likely to come forward. “Previously they may not have seen a point in coming forward and sharing their story, and we already know how women who report any kind of assault get treated – not well. But if you know there might be some action as a result of you coming forward you'll be much more likely to do so.

“Women are realising how bad they've had it for so long and trying to take things back, and the upskirting campaign will have inspired so many people to stand up for their rights and realise that things aren't okay as they stand, and that we shouldn't brush things under the carpet as 'just part of being a woman'.”

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I Have A Few Problems With Naked Beach – For One, No One Is Naked (NSFW)

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The first episode of 'controversial' new reality show Naked Beach aired on Thursday night. I’ve put controversial in inverted commas because Greggs' sausage rolls have caused more fuss than this flogged-to-death format is likely to generate.

So what’s it all about then? I could say it’s Love Island with love handles, Big Brother with baps, or maybe just Oglebox (apologies) but that would be doing the makers of Naked Beach a disservice because it’s actually a very serious show – nay, a noble 'quest' to make us all feel better about our bodies.

A serious show requires serious people and that's where the fully clothed (boo!) social psychologist Dr Keon West of Goldsmiths University comes in. Dr West's genuinely interesting and insightful studies (including “Naked and Unashamed: Investigations and Applications of the Effects of Naturist Activities on Body Image, Self Esteem and Life Satisfaction) show that people’s body image, self-esteem and life satisfaction could be vastly improved by seeing more “normal, naked bodies and spending more time with our own naked bodies”. Naked Beach puts this to the test with the ambitious aim to “help fix the nation’s body confidence issues”.

Another genuine and serious person is mental health expert and body image campaigner Natasha Devon MBE, who tells us that basically, Britain's body image is in our boots. She cites more studies that found over 75% of women are unhappy with how they look, 45% of men don’t like what they see in the mirror and now, because we're such a bunch of idiots, our kids aren’t happy with their bodies either. Devon says this is a global health issue that affects our mental health and has links to depression.

And so the premise is this: Each week, three 'guests' whose body confidence is painfully low are sent off to a self-esteem bootcamp (or should I say, BOOTY camp) at a luxury villa in Greece, to spend time with some naked people who love their bodies.

These naked 'hosts' are a diverse range of shapes and sizes and skin colours, and each one was selected because they are part of the body confidence movement, which I cannot and will not be flippant about.

And yet despite its serious goals, the show gets very, very silly. In episode one, guests Elysia, Darrell and Kaye are cajoled into nude wheelbarrow races, hula hooping and life drawing lessons on the lawn, before stripping off each night in front of their rigged-up mirrors and telling us how they feel about themselves. At the end of each episode, a titillating finale looms: will they choose to bare all?

If you’ve watched any reality TV before (yes you have, you liar) then Naked Beach is bound to feel familiar – from the earnest voiceover to the diary cam confessions, exuberant hosts and silly challenges. Were it not for our serious science boffin doing pieces to camera you'd be forgiven for forgetting you're watching a serious effort to transform the nation for the better and not just some shameless excuse to ogle a few naked millennials while you wait for your Dr. Oetker pizza to cook.

If I sound cynical it's because I am. I didn’t hate this show – the hosts and guests seem warm and lovely – but parts feel forced and insincere, and I kept asking myself what the end goal is here. Are we willing people to get naked for their self-esteem or is it just a cheap payoff for the viewer?

Yet I truly rooted for the cast of episode one because they all seem like beautiful, shy souls, and regardless of the show’s simulated sincerity, there is no doubting their cripplingly low self-confidence is real. Darrell talks about convincing himself he doesn’t care anymore – a defence mechanism to which I think many, many people can relate. Twenty-seven-year-old Kaye from Preston works in a fish and chip shop and hates everything about her body except for her toes. She's funny, but her story is genuinely troubling: she’s been with her adoring partner for 10 years but won’t get married because she can't face the thought of shopping for a a wedding dress. Elysia has had a kid and says her self-consciousness impacts her life every day.

And now to the elephant in the room: no one in Naked Beach is actually naked. In fact they're all wearing more than I did getting my last Brazilian (2010, thanks for asking).

The very brief explanation offered at the beginning of the show is that the nylon codpieces are to help ease our very body-conscious subjects into the process but that didn't seem credible to me, so I asked a spokesperson for the show to explain. Was it a watershed thing? Did the hosts not want to strip completely? Did the producers think the nation’s heads would explode if faced with full-on front bottom shots?

Here's what they had to say: “Naked Beach is about body image not genitalia or gratuitous nudity. Both [Devon and Dr West] agree that people with very low body image usually also really struggle with nudity and so, given the details of the four-day process were initially concealed from the guests, the experts felt that meeting a group of entirely naked hosts from the get-go may be unnecessarily confronting and so body paint and modesty covers were introduced.”

Fine, but maybe don't call the show Naked Beach then? Oh and all that body paint is going to be a nightmare to clean out of the swimming pool filter.

Despite my reservations about the show's worthy intentions, there are takeaways here. I’m not going to whip my bra and knickers off when I’m walking home and fling them onto the windscreens of oncoming cars while singing Cheryl Lynn's “Got To Be Real” at the top of my voice, but I do buy Dr Keon's logic – seeing a more representative range of bodies more often works. We need more of that, everywhere, every day.

And if I haven't made this clear, I believe body issues should be taken very seriously. I grew up in a home where the only thing enforced more strictly than the Bible was the Weight Watchers points system. (My mum and her mates used to carpool to their WW weigh-ins once a week in what they called “the fattybus”.) All through my teens and 20s I have been tortured by body confidence issues, done more dumb crash diets than I care to recall and often skipped social engagements because I felt like Kaye does about her wedding dress. So I get it, but you'll have to pardon me if I happen to think that painting sunflowers on our tits isn’t going to solve the problem.

Naked Beach is on Thursdays at 8pm, Channel 4 and on All 4.

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8 Ways To Wear Goddess Locs To Your Next Music Festival

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Faux locs are the unsung hero of protective hairstyles. Typically it takes months to loc hair and years until the locs reach shoulder length. But with a few hours and packs of Marley hair, you can get the same effect. And like many other protective styles, you won't have to worry about styling for a month — at least.

One of our favourite takes on faux locs is the "goddess" style, which was created by Dr. Kari Williams. Williams previously told Refinery29 that goddess locs use various types of human hair to create a lightweight, lived-in finish. And in particular, it's the wavy ends that distinguish goddess locs from the classic faux-loc look. Your stylist can also integrate loose, wavy hair throughout your locs using the waterfall method, which requires pulling pieces of wavy hair out of each loc as you go. This results in sporadic curls throughout your entire head.

Before you go on vacation or hit up the grounds at Coachella, we rounded up some of our favourite takes on goddess locs to inspire your spring protective style.

When you're torn between box braids and passion twists, go for goddess locs instead. They style is a happy medium.
A few loose curls throughout this protective style give the locs extra wow factor.
If you have a backless dress moment that you want to show off, you can toss your goddess locs up into a bun or up-do to give your outfit a chance to shine.
Wrap your locs with metallic cord and accessories to add some bling to your style before hitting up a music festival.
These locs look like they grew out of the scalp, but really they're single box braids wrapped in crochet faux locs.
You can wrap your locs into double buns when you don't want to keep your hair out of your face and the focus on your eyes.
What we love most about these wavy locs is that they stay fresh a lot longer than other protective styles, so you can stretch them out for weeks before needing a touch-up.
You'd never be able to tell that these goddess locs were done using the crochet method, which saves hours since you don't have to wrap the hair from root to tip.
If you're not here for lots of length, you can ask your (faux) loctician to style your goddess locs in a shoulder-grazing bob.

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4 Black Women Answer The Question: Can You Braid?

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Braiding is an important part of Black beauty culture. And for many Black women, the experience of getting your hair braided — whether in cornrows or for protective styles — begins in childhood and continues into adulthood. In the latest episode of Go Off Sis, four ladies reflect on their braiding memories and answer the question: Can you braid?

“I have such a love-hate relationship with those memories of getting my hair braided,” Sojourner Elleby says. “My butt would get tired, I would be sore, and I didn't want to sit there for hours.” Jessica Cruel paints a similar picture of her childhood braiding sessions. “Every summer my mom would say, 'It’s time for braids,' and I’d sit between her legs. She'd put on The Lion King and braid my hair for hours.” While not always the most glamorous experience, braiding served as a bonding time for many people and their parents (or other family members).

But not all the ladies in the video know how to braid themselves. “You can revoke my Black-girl card. I can't cornrow. I just can't,” says Elleby, but she's planning to learn before becoming a mother. “Braiding and Black motherhood go hand in hand, which is exactly why before I have any babies of my own,” Elleby says. “I need to have my child in between my legs to braid their hair. I have to.” However, Ryen Williams has another point of view: “I don't think you have to know how to braid in order to be a Black mother,” she says. “Girl, if you can't braid, you can still be fly.”

Press play to hear more of what these women had to say, and tell us about your braiding experiences in the comments section below.

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The Hair Accessory L.A.'s Coolest Fashion Girls Are Obsessed With

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We're here for hair candy of all kinds. Claw clips? Fun! Scrunchies? We'll take one in every colour. Gemstone bobby pins? Stack 'em up. But of all the '90s-throwback hair accessories that have seen trend revivals recently, the humble headband is perhaps the most stylishly spring-ready of them all.

This season, everyone from red-carpet regulars (like Elle Fanning and Nicole Richie) to Instagram's mega-influencers (like Julie Sariñana and Camila Coelho) has been topping their hair with a perfectly-placed band across the crown — and it's giving us all kinds of easy up-do inspiration. Padded, wrapped, studded with pearls, however you take your headband, there's a cool-girl way to style it that can take you from your next black-tie wedding to Saturday's boozy brunch, and every spring occasion in between.

Click ahead to see the hairstyles we're loving for spring for all the motivation you need to dust off your long-neglected headband collection... or find a shiny, new, possibly leopard-printed one to add to your vanity.

If you have green or hazel eyes like Nicole Richie, a silky amber headband, like this one from Slip, will make the gold flecks pop.
At the red-carpet premiere of her upcoming film Teen Spirit, Elle Fanning showed her youthful side with a bright-pink Barbie moment in a glittery Rodarte gown, with a matching headband at the crown of her '60s-inspired bouffant hairstyle.
Influencer Julie Sariñana has her own line of affordable Coachella-ready hair accessories — headbands included — but we've been most inspired by her more low-key headband hairstyles. This chic leopard print headband from Pull & Bear, £7.99, is a great, affordable dupe.
Alex Pereira, influencer and fashion designer, styles her fancy Jennifer Behr pearl-studded Noor headband with Voile Blanche dad sneakers and a camel trench coat, proving the statement headband's high-low versatility.
A classic black padded headband instantly elevates your go-to second-day messy bun. This L. Erickson 1-inch band is an easy add to your next Revolve order.
A scrunchie wrap-style headband adds cool dimension to a protective hairstyle, like braids, twists, or locs.
Athleisure is having a huge moment right now in skin-care trends and cute-meets-sporty hairstyles. We're loving this look: a thick white headband styled with black spandex bike shorts and skinny hoops.
Model Jourdana Elizabeth proves that you don't need long hair to style a headband to perfection. A bright bow band gives a curly short cut a little springy pizzazz.
Beach season is fast approaching, and a white elastic sports band that ties in the back — as styled on models Lameka Fox and Malika El Maslouhi — is an easy, on-trend accessory to throw in your bag along with your towel and sunscreen.
Influencer Camila Coelho proves that the velour headband is wearable through spring, especially when it comes in a fresh baby-blue colour.
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I've Had Enough Of Films About Black Pain & Black Pain Only

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What can I tell you about horror films? They make you jump, they’ll stop you from sleeping and, if you’re really lucky, they’ll terrify you so deeply that even the memory of watching the movie will make you twinge with discomfort. Fun, right? Unfortunately, there’s another symptom that has long pervaded the genre until pretty recently – black people tend not to feature and, if they are, they’ll probably be dead in the first few minutes.

It’s a cliché that the black community has long poked fun at. “Don’t leave the house, black kid! That zombie’s definitely going to kill you first!” How funny! How predictable! How in on the joke we are! But if you'll allow me to spoil the fun for a second, in reality we’ve spent years subscribing to the ideology that black people don’t fit into fictional horror stories. It’s not our space and if we step into it, we’ll be killed, ridiculed or caricatured at the earliest opportunity. Dig a little deeper into the psychology of the whole thing and it's even more grim. We have to consider that perhaps it's because our real-life trauma – the race-specific experience of things like slavery, poverty and gang violence that Hollywood has long preferred to capitalise on – is terrifying enough. We've been assigned our narratives and cinema has expected us to stick to them. To me, that's far more daunting than a menacing shadow lurking on the other side of the shower curtain.

So where does it end? Barry Jenkins' Best Picture-winning coming-of-age drama Moonlight was a landmark film, exploring masculinity in a way we've never seen before. Jordan Peele has been a game-changer, of course. His Oscar-winning Get Out explored the black experience in a way that high-grossing blockbusters hadn’t seen outside of the historical drama canon. But how far did it push? Within the scary film family, his 2019 follow-up Us starring Lupita N’yongo gave the 'black dies, white survives' trope the middle finger in a huge way. Up next this year is Ma, a new horror from The Help director Tate Taylor. He reunites with actress Octavia Spencer, who now plays Su Ann, the sinister woman who invites a group of teenagers from the local high school to party in her basement.

It's a welcome genre-switch for Octavia. Save perhaps for Hidden Figures, where she starred as one of three unsung African-American women who launched astronaut John Glenn into orbit, her most familiar performances have been as the literal 'help'. “The archetypes that they really want to see a – woman of zaftig stature and a cute, little Cheshire cat grin – is the nurturer, or the sassy whatever,” Octavia told Dev Patel in Variety's Actors on Actors interview back in 2016. “And right after I did The Help I was all excited about the possibilities that would come, and 90% of the roles [offered were] a maid. And I'm thinking, I just played the best damn maid role written. I don't have a problem with playing a maid again but it has to top this one – and none of them did.”

She's just one of many black women who have continuously been typecast as characters with little more backstory than the generalised struggle that's attached to blackness: pain, hardship and dependancy. In Ma there's clearly more to unpick. Though the trailer hints that Su Ann's motivations might be loosely related to an underlying race conflict, it's not clear whether it'll be a key plot device in the film. That said, the fact that my first instinct was to make this presumption about a film with a black lead and a majority white cast says a lot about what I've come to expect from contemporary cinema – not very much, apparently.

I don't think it's a coincidence that many black actors have found their entry into big money, blockbuster roles via films that follow a stereotypical, largely American narrative of black history. If we take it back just to 2010, we have Mo'Nique winning the Oscar for Best Actress in a Supporting Role for Precious. Fast-forward two years and it's Octavia Spencer's turn to take home the same accolade for her defining role as Minny in The Help. Then comes Lupita, who was awarded her career-launching role in 12 Years a Slave. The trend seems to continue every couple of years, with Viola Davis taking home the Academy Award for Best Actress in a Supporting Role after starring in Fences in 2017. This year it was taken by Regina King for her outstanding performance in If Beale Street Could Talk. Can you spot the common denominator?

These, some of the most highly acclaimed films of recent years, which are about the black experience, are rooted in a history of pain. That's not to overshadow the fact that each of the aforementioned films is, indeed, exceptional. They gave due attention to both the talent starring in them and the stories that would otherwise be overlooked by people unfamiliar with the uncomfortable reality that we all share. But it almost feels as if black trauma continues to be, if not a trend, then a genre that tactically resurfaces to be applauded by Academy boards that remain predominantly white.

It's a lot to consume and it's difficult to articulate. Personally, I had to stop at If Beale Street Could Talk. I was moved by the love story at the heart of Barry Jenkins' wonderful adaptation of James Baldwin's novel and crushed by the race-fuelled prejudice and injustice that clouded around it. It was poignant, powerful and very close to home – purposefully so. I'm yet to watch this year's buzzy black pain films BlacKkKlansman and Green Book, purely because I didn't feel emotionally prepared to take on or relive painful stories that I'm personally familiar with. To put the sentiment in writing feels selfish of me, almost as if I'm getting in the way of sincerely important narratives that I do truly care about being shared. But there's a heavy weight that rests on my chest as a black woman observing a barrage of 'blacks beaten down by whites, blacks saved by whites' stories. It's a generalisation, for sure. But it's one that is incredibly difficult to unsee.

There are amazing films that come along to break the trend of course, and through them we're slowly starting to prove that black culture is richer than the experiences the big screen seems committed to showcasing. Look at the success of Black Panther and Girls Trip. Films starring black characters, with stories that aren't just about the black struggle, are seeping through the cracks. But we're a little way from celebratory black narratives outweighing or even equalling those that focus on a culture of trauma which in many ways remains prevalent in the world today. And it's just as crucial to see black-led stories about our community's successes, inspiration and celebration brought to life as it is the painful narratives that are sometimes harder to talk about off screen.

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This Is What Periods Look Like For Women Around The World

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Thanks to the much-needed noise around period poverty in recent years, we're increasingly aware of the fact that, for many women, sanitary products aren't readily available. They're expensive, and being unable to afford them is a source of shame and stress for many women. The UK government finally took a crucial step to end period poverty by announcing it would provide sanitary products for free at all secondary schools in England from September.

But millions of women and girls around the world use other methods of managing their menstrual cycles each month, whether that's because they're unable to afford sanitary products or for environmental, health or disposal reasons. A new photo series from the charity WaterAid showcases the myriad surprising and inventive ways in which women manage their periods around the world. From Australia to Zambia, women and girls are fashioning their own sanitary pads and menstruation skirts from unexpected materials – and while they might not be women's ideal solution, they do the job.

"Women shouldn’t have to worry about where they might go, how they might manage their periods, or whether the appropriate facilities including running water and adequate disposal will be available," says Louisa Gosling, WaterAid's quality programmes manager. The charity is calling on governments to prioritise access to sanitary products and appropriate sanitation, among other things, "to ensure that women are not excluded from society once a month as a result of a natural process."

From a menstrual cup to cloth, a menstruation skirt and homemade sanitary pads, there are many ways in which women make do, while battling the stigma that continues to surround periods.

Pakistan

"My mom told me to use cloth during my periods. I cannot afford to use sanitary pads," says Saba, 18, in Pakistan's capital, Islamabad.WaterAid/ Sibtain Haider.
A piece of cloth to be used as a sanitary pad in Islamabad, Pakistan

"I find the use of cloth difficult and it makes me uncomfortable," Saba says. "I can’t use it properly and I feel irritated. I keep worrying because I do not want others to know when I am menstruating."WaterAid/ Sibtain Haider.
Uganda

Lepera Joyce, 23, shows her goatskin skirt which she uses when she is on her period. "I use this goatskin skirt because it’s always available," she says. "It’s our traditional sanitary pad." Lepera Joyce is pictured in Nakapiripirit district, in the country's Karamoja region.WaterAid/ James Kiyimba.
The goatskin skirt which Lepera Joyce uses to manage bleeding when she is on her period

"I don’t pay anyone to use the skin," she says. "Other pads are expensive. Even if my skirt gets old, I make another one since we have many goats. My grandmother taught me how to make and use the goatskin skirt during menstruation."WaterAid/ James Kiyimba.
UK

Twenty-seven-year-old Hilary, in London, relies on reusable sanitary pads to manage her period. "The environment is a big factor for why I use reusable sanitary pads. It’s about reducing waste."WaterAid/ Billy Barraclough.
Hilary's reusable sanitary pad

"I use a combination of different reusable sanitary pads, cotton or bamboo, when I am on my period. A group of women in India makes some of them as a means of sustainable income. It is important to me that they are made of natural materials because I find it most comfortable and eco friendly. Fortunately, I am in the privileged position to think of comfort when it comes to sanitary towels."WaterAid/ Billy Barraclough.
Claire, 40, in Manchester, uses a menstrual cup during her period to reduce waste, although she acknowledges it is "more hassle" than pads and tampons. "It needs boiling to clean it properly. We have a 'Mooncup pan' in which I boil it and sometimes I have to rush into the kitchen to stop someone from boiling an egg in it."WaterAid/ David Severn.
Claire's Mooncup

"My main consideration is that these products are better for the environment. I made a lifestyle choice to reduce waste. Before becoming more environmentally conscious I used regular supermarket brands."WaterAid/ David Severn.
Zambia

Limpo, 22, cuts cow patties to size for use during menstruation. "I do not put the cow patties directly on my skin, I wrap it in a cloth and place it nicely to capture the flow without staining other clothes," she explains. "I like this method because cow patties soak up a lot of blood before they are completely soaked. I go about doing all sorts of things without any trouble." She is pictured in the country's Mongu district.WaterAid/ Chileshe Chanda.
A cow pattie used by Limpo during her period

"I cannot say that I am completely comfortable and happy using these materials to manage my periods. If I had an alternative, I would use other stuff. It is just that I don’t have an option, so I keep using this anyway. I have never seen or experienced any complications with cow patties."WaterAid/ Chileshe Chanda.
Australia

Steph, 27, uses tampons, pads and an IUD to manage her period. "I have an IUD to help manage my endometriosis and polycystic ovary syndrome, which in turn helps manage my menstrual cycle as well." She is pictured in Melbourne in September 2018.WaterAid/ David Freeman.
Steph's tampons

"I use brand name pads and tampons as needed. I get them from the supermarket, but often forget to restock and my wonderful partner goes out to buy them for me. Luckily he is very comfortable with all this!"WaterAid/ David Freeman.
Zambia

Nowana, 45, pictured in front of her house in Zambia's Mongu district in August 2018, uses powdered cow patties in a pouch during her period. "I would prefer pads to cow patties if I had a choice. They are easy and already made, they are disposable and don’t require a lengthy process like the one I go through when using cow patties."WaterAid/ Chileshe Chanda.
Powdered cow patties and a pouch

"Our parents taught us about the use of cow patties a long time ago before we even heard about pads. I was shown this method by my grandmother and I have been using it since that time," says Nowana. "Money is scarce and I cannot afford to buy pads, they are expensive and that’s why I use this method."WaterAid/ Chileshe Chanda.
A 19-year-old named Doris holds lint cotton she uses during menstruation in Kazungula district, Zambia

"When I am on my period, I stop playing soccer or any other sporting activities. I can’t run or play games with my friends." She explains her method: "I get my pieces of cloth from my mother’s old and worn out chitenge. As for the cotton wool, I pick it from the cotton fields and stock it up for use when need arises."WaterAid/ Chileshe Chanda.
Nepal

"Ready made pads are costly and if you do not dispose of them properly it will pollute the environment," says Sangita, 32, who holds up a homemade reusable sanitary pad in Nepal's Kavre district. "In a municipality like ours, where there is no plan for managing solid waste, pads can contaminate our water source if they are not disposed of properly. So looking at the wider impact, homemade pads are safer."WaterAid/ Mani Karmacharya.
Uganda

Munyes, 44, in Uganda's Karamoja region, finds it "easy and very normal to make a hole in the ground and sit on top of it for blood to drain in it." She explains: "I find managing my period using this method very convenient because buying sanitary pads is costly and sometimes when blood comes there is no time to run to the shop to buy sanitary pads. I can’t run, letting people see my blood; I would rather make a hole in the ground to sit."WaterAid/ James Kiyimba.
Malawi

Tamala, 23, in Kasungu, Malawi, uses a piece of cloth called nyanda during her period. "Cleaning the nyanda can be problematic for us and our families, particularly with issues of hygiene and sanitation."WaterAid/ Dennis Lupenga.
Nyanda, a small piece of cloth used as a sanitary pad in Kasungu, Malawi, which is placed inside underwear

Tamala explains: "However, some among us cannot afford underwear, so in that case, we secure the nyanda in place by tearing a long and thin piece of the rag and tie it around the waist to hold the fabric tight in place."WaterAid/ Dennis Lupenga.

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Slick Woods Talks To R29 About Coachella, Style & New Motherhood

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Surely one of the most memorable fashion moments of the last six months was Slick Woods going into labour while she was modelling at Rihanna's Savage x Fenty show last September during New York Fashion Week. Looking incredible in thigh-high stockings, nipple pasties, and a harness, the 22-year-old model continued to pose, despite being 2 cm dilated. What a badass.

But then Slick Woods is the ultimate original. Since being discovered by the model Ash Stymest at a LA bus stop in 2015, Woods has come to be known as one of the coolest models in the game. Outspoken and free spirited, her gap-toothed smile is now known the world over. On the eve of Coachella festival, we caught up with Slick at the UGG + Desert X party in Palm Springs to talk about festival style, motherhood and finally beating Gigi and Bella to a modelling award.

Hi Slick, so Coachella is this weekend, talk to me about your festival style. Do you spend much time working out your outfits?

Nah I just pack my uniform, put it in a backpack, then mix and match on the day. I was gonna wear overalls today but my makeup artist told me not to!

Who are you looking forward to seeing play at Coachella?

I don’t even know who’s playing yet! Music at Coachella is usually a little too mainstream for me. I like trap music. Future, Gucci Mane, things like that.

What’s your food and drink of choice at a festival?

Tacos and Jameson whisky. I was at Ireland airport one time and someone made me try Jameson. I love it.

You’re out here in Palm Springs working with UGG. How’s that?

I feel like this new UGG collection has gone to a new level. I wear these slides and I feel like a Korean rapper. You can wear the furry ones, Le Fluff, and go to the club.

UGG have collaborated with Desert X to produce original artwork around the desert, are you much of an art person?

I love my friend Cory Wash’s work, she’s super dope. She does everything with a Sharpie. I keep all her art in my house. Everything she makes, I buy it. Malik Roberts is dope. I like street style art.

It’s Mother’s Day in the US next month, the first since you gave birth last September. Are you going to do anything?

I mean I don’t know if my son's gonna say “Happy Mother’s Day” that soon but we’ll see! He’ll just want food and I’ll be all, “Yes master!”

How are you finding being a parent?

It’s good, I have fun, he’s a fun kid. He doesn’t really cry, he’s just a happy-go-lucky guy. He wakes up, looks around and is like, “How the fuck did I get here?” and I’m like “I carried you!”

I read that last year at Coachella you were pregnant but you hadn’t realised it yet?

Well before it I kept throwing up so we went to two different doctors and they both said I had the stomach flu and gave me medication. Then I came to Coachella and my agent was like, ‘You don’t have abs anymore’ and I was like ‘What does that mean?’ Turns out I was pregnant at the time. It was crazy. Saphir’s a wild baby.

Do you think the fashion industry is doing enough to ensure diversity?

I don’t know if it’s getting better or worse because I feel like sometimes people fetishise us instead of using us because they actually want to be inclusive, you know?

What's been your proudest moment in your career to date?

I won Model of the Year [at the Fashion Los Angeles Awards] like two or three weeks ago and I was like ‘Wow! Me?! Not Bella and Gigi again?’ The Pirelli calendar was a big thing for me too. And being the face of Fenty for so long was amazing, I loved that.

Are you over being asked about going into labour at the Fenty show?

No, I never get bored of talking about my son! Never. My son is my pride and joy.

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The Real Reason America Has Never Had A Female President

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When you have conversations with people, few will admit that they think a woman president is a bad idea, in theory. In fact, many will enthusiastically say “it's time” for a woman in the White House. According to a recent study, 52% of Americans, including 60% of women and 45% of men, say they would feel “very comfortable” having a female president. A 2008 article, however, said “some polls indicate that 81% of Americans would personally vote for a qualified woman candidate from their party.”

Neither of these numbers are as high as they should be. But when you look at them next to how much the male candidates are out-polling and out-fundraising female ones for the 2020 presidential race, it's obvious that people really aren't talking the talk. Look no further than South Bend, IN, Mayor Pete Buttigieg pulling ahead of Sen. Elizabeth Warren in Iowa, in third place behind former Vice President Joe Biden and Sen. Bernie Sanders. He has also outearned Warren, bringing in $7 million in the first quarter of 2019 while she brought in $6 million. A late-March Quinnipiac poll shows him tied for fifth place with Warren nationally.

Why are some voters choosing Buttigieg over a policy heavyweight who has brought more exciting and well thought-out ideas to the table than any candidate so far? Like the senator from Massachusetts, he's a capitalist who wants to tax the rich and get big money out of politics. Like Warren, he's also open to abolishing both the Senate filibuster and the Electoral College so Democrats can actually make their proposals happen. But unlike her, he doesn't have a ton of specific details on his plans or experience bringing them to life. “I really like Pete Buttigieg. He is intelligent. He is decent. He is curious,” tweeted commentator Jill Filipovic. “But when he says, 'I think that policy matters, I’m a policy guy,' but all of his policies are basically Warren's (except less specific and less progressive), I wonder why he's not working for her.” Good question.

A lot of this comes down to Democrats thinking that playing it male means playing it safe, having watched Hillary Clinton lose in 2016 (although that she won the popular vote, in a country that supposedly isn't ready for a woman president, is less discussed). In the above-mentioned 2008 article, called “Subtle Sexism? Examining Vote Preferences When Women Run Against Men for the Presidency,” authors David Paul and Jessi L. Smith note that people's perceptions of others' biases tend to colour their own voting preferences. Some polls “imply that nearly one-third of Americans believe their 'neighbours' are unwilling to vote for a woman,” they write. In other words, as Kate Manne, an assistant professor at Cornell University interpreted it, “I’m not biased, but they might be, so I ought to vote for a man.”

This risk-averseness is compounded by mainstream media, which reflects the internalised misogyny of the public. Not only does cable news pay an outsized amount of attention to the white, male candidates — ensuring they stay high in the polls — but print and digital media reporters, a recent study found, tend to describe them more positively.

The Northeastern University School of Journalism analysed 200 articles, focusing on the five most-read news websites according to Amazon's Alexa: The Washington Post, The New York Times, HuffPo, CNN, and Fox News. Researchers looked at the percentage of positive words used to describe 2020 presidential candidates. The candidates by media sentiment from highest to lowest, were: Sen. Bernie Sanders, Sen. Cory Booker, Beto O'Rourke, Sen. Elizabeth Warren, Sen. Amy Klobuchar, Sen. Kamala Harris, Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand. Notice a pattern here?

Words used to describe the female candidates more frequently have to do with their requisite “scandals” — which might not have been such huge “scandals” if they were men. The most egregious example of this is that the top words for Gillibrand are “sexual,” “harassment,” and “Franken,” echoing the misogynistic refrain that she somehow threw former Sen. Al Franken “under the bus” when she called for him to resign. As a reminder, Franken had eight credible accusations of sexual harassment against him, there were other senators calling for his resignation, and he chose to resign himself.

The misogyny in political coverage is made worse by the fact that 70% of political coverage overall and 74% of election news at online news outlets is done by men, according to a new report from the Women's Media Center. It's made even worse when you consider that they seem to exist within an echo chamber: Male political reporters retweet other men three times more than their female colleagues. It's all but guaranteed that most people who tweet this article will be women, when it's the male reporters who need to read it most.

So, why is it that so many people would be happy with a female president but are unwilling to do the legwork? The answer lies somewhere between media bros, internalised misogyny, and “risk-averseness.” But now that all of these factors are out in the open, we have no excuse but to address them head-on and, ultimately, do better than we did in 2016.

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15 Seriously Amazing Wedding Dresses With Pockets For The Hands-On Bride

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I don't know a woman alive who doesn't love pockets. Along with "It was half off in the sale!", "It has pockets!" is the best thing you can hear after complimenting a friend's new outfit; cue them doubling down with a demonstration of said pockets, naturally.

In 2019, humans have managed to grow plants on the moon (no, really), yet women's clothing often remains pocketless. While our male friends and partners can get up and go – keys, phone and wallet tucked safely in their back pockets – we must content ourselves with that meagre coin pocket on our jeans (or worse, fake pockets).

No time are you more likely to find yourself needing to carry a small suitcase worth of items than on your wedding day: your vows, a packet of tissues, lipstick for touch-ups, a flask for Dutch courage, a list of your other half's obscure family members... In January, this tweet about a bride and her bridesmaids whose dresses had pockets went viral, causing women across the globe to consider the possibilities of a brave new pocketed world.

In the same boat? Then look no further, we've rounded up 15 of our favourite wedding dresses with pockets.



Anna Sorrano Porsha Dress, $, available at WED2B


Stella McCartney Lace-Up Cady Maxi Dress, $, available at Net-A-Porter


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How To Make Your Beauty Routine Eco-Friendly – Without Compromising On Quality

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When Glossier Play burst onto the scene earlier this year, it wasn't the velvety formulas, Instagram-worthy shades and impressive pigment payoff which caught the attention of makeup lovers on Instagram. It was the packaging and materials used. Products were enveloped in material reminiscent of shiny plastic sweet wrappers and stuffed into cardboard boxes, and if you bought their cool new eyeshadow, Glitter Gelée, you were getting non-biodegradable glitter, essentially microplastic, which experts now argue has a profoundly negative environmental impact.

Thankfully, Glossier Play has been letting their fanbase know that they will be phasing out the foils over the next six months, and regarding Glitter Gelée, are actively exploring reformulating the product with bio-glitter, but the comments are still coming in thick and fast on Instagram. “At a time when sustainability is at the forefront of customers' minds it's pretty sad that this isn't biodegradable,” wrote one follower, while another said, “Do you know what’s aesthetic? A clean planet. All this packaging is sooo unnecessary.” Glossier isn't the only brand to face the wrath of the beauty eco-warriors. Pat McGrath Labs has also been called out for their unscrupulous use of packaging, such as plastic bags and sequins, with anonymous beauty collective Estée Laundry leading the fight.

So with more and more of us putting environmental impact at the forefront of our purchases, why are beauty brands continuing to ignore consumer demand? “It does seem that despite the fact that people are swaying towards eco-friendly products, most of the big corporations simply do not seem to care,” explained Vicky Lyons, founder of Lyonsleaf, a natural, 100% recyclable beauty brand which has just gone completely plastic-free. “Any business has to make money, so there is a motivation to produce a product that sells – and shiny plastic does sell. As well as this, big brands have an infrastructure set up for certain types of packaging and it’s not that simple to change overnight. Small brands are more nifty and can adapt more easily, but it's also up to us to make positive changes and to invest our money into ethical companies who really care.”

This is something Rowena Bird, cofounder of LUSH, which has just opened its first ever 'naked shop' (that's zero packaging whatsoever), seconds. She suggests that while it's hard not to become disillusioned when it looks like hardly any difference is being made in the beauty industry, it's important to continue to speak up. “Write to companies demanding they make a difference and be mindful of what you’re buying. You don’t have to give up your way of life entirely, but small adjustments can make a huge difference. This includes reusing as well as recycling, because single-use items are the worst offenders.”

An R29 experiment concluded that it's difficult to make your entire beauty routine plastic-free at the moment but that beauty brands, such as Kjaer Weis, Le Labo, Rituals and more are getting on board with refillable initiatives, preserving packaging and saving you money in the long run. In fact, Beauty Kitchen recently launched their 'return, refill, repeat' programme, beauty's first large-scale, zero-waste initiative. Brand founder, Jo Chidley told R29 that since going live with the scheme, other beauty brands have contacted her to enquire about collecting, washing and returning their packaging for them. According to Jo, this will be phase two of their programme and will hopefully encourage bigger brands to factor in sustainability.

Upcycling – enlisting jars, bottles and tubs for other uses around the home, like potting plants, flower vases, or storage for kitchen ingredients and jewellery – is also something brands are into. Isla Apothecary, By Sarah London and Haeckels (whose packaging is mainly recyclable glass) are just a few companies championing the movement. Even better, Haeckels has begun experiments with growing their own packaging from environmentally friendly materials which achieve the same effect of plastic but are actually made out of biodegradable elements like mushrooms and sea algae.

Then there's Instagram-worthy BYBI, whose packaging looks like plastic but is actually sugarcane (entirely biodegradable), Soaper Duper, whose packaging is made of 100% post-consumer recycled plastic (the reason why the bottles are green is because the majority comes from semi-skimmed milk carton lids), and fragrance brand Floral Street, which ditches cellophane wraps and printed labels for 100% recyclable, compostable and biodegradable boxes.

In fact, there are hundreds of burgeoning beauty brands who are doing eco-friendly beauty right, but just aren't as big yet. Take We Are Paradoxx, for example. The recently launched haircare company ditches plastic and glass for aluminium, which, despite being a little more expensive, can be recycled on an infinite loop. “Plastic can only be recycled a limited number of times and is down-cycled each time,” explains founder, Yolanda Cooper. “Eventually it will be used to create fabric and end up in landfill. This is not solving the problem, just delaying it for future generations.” Yolanda reveals that she also looked into glass and although it is considerably better than plastic, it weighs more, which increases the carbon emissions, requires additional packaging to protect it from breaking in transit and can be dangerous in the shower. “Aluminium is not only infinitely recyclable, but has a lower transportation carbon emission than glass or plastic,” adds Yolanda, “with 55% of aluminium cans currently being recycled correctly compared to 34% of glass containers.”

Recycling properly is a great start, especially if you aren't willing to give up your affordable shampoo multipack just yet, but it's clear our approach to how we deal with beauty waste needs to change. “Get a recycling bin for your bathroom,” adds Yolanda. “We know that 90% of us recycle regularly in the kitchen but only 52% of us recycle in the bathroom, so beauty and personal care products are contributing heavily to the plastics issue.” And it's important to realise just how much control you have as a consumer. “One of the best ways to help the environment is to stop investing in brands with no eco-friendly credentials altogether,” says Vicky, something Jo seconds. “The sheer power of your money, and where you choose to spend or not spend it, will make any brand sit up and listen.”

While Glossier has yet to find an alternative for their plastic glitter, they have just discontinued sending sticker sheets with every shipment and also updated their shipping boxes to be made out of 100% recycled materials, as sustainability becomes a larger priority for both them and their customers. It does seem as though there is a long way to go for other big name brands, but with a spotlight on using social media to call out unnecessary packaging, investing in refillable schemes, environmentally friendly brands and taking small steps to better recycling, the future looks hopeful.

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Thando Hapo Is The First Albino Model To Cover Vogue

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Thando Hapo just made history. Fronting the new issue of Vogue Portugal, the 30-year-old South African model is the first person with albinism to appear on a Vogue cover — and it's a dream come true. Hapo shared her excitement on Instagram, writing “I once said to a close friend that it would really be lovely to see a woman with albinism on a Vogue cover, I would not have imagined that that woman would be me.”

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I once said to a close friend that it would really be lovely to see a woman with albinism on a Vogue Cover, I would not have imagined that that woman would be me. “We are the ones we have been waiting for.” I’m emotional, because I see progress and get to form part of a progressive story and narrative. I got to a place in my career where I appreciate every specimen of my body and knowing that wherever I go, my existence, the way it is, has always and will always be enough. Thank you for allowing me to make a footnote in history @vogueportugal Thank you to the people who advised, supported and contributed significantly to this journey, who harnessed the essence of representation and inclusion. @gertjohancoetzee @melshaw001 @asandasizani @lynetteb_ Dr Precious Motsepe @unalbinism @audisouthafrica @asifhoosen @khanyi_matla @phindiv @pirelli Tim Walker @bbcafrica @bbc @motsepefoundation @afi_sa @glamour_sa @marieclairesa @foschinisa @pridemm @fashion_friend1 @staceylhanmer @kirsten___goss @beautyrevolution_za @samhopa @wokeproject @mimiinblue @adwoaaboa @infra_red_99 Not to mention I worked with an amazing team, it was one of the most unique and refreshing experiences I’ve ever had. Produced by @imi_oztas Features editor @patriciatrdomingues Editor in chief @sofia.slucas Photographer:@rhysframpton Styling @sallyannebolton Make up:@suuad_jeppe Journalist @joanapem P,S thank you to @shaundross for sending so much love my way and @diandraforrest for the shout out. thandohopa#photograpy#activist#activism#fashion#writer#diversity#inclusion#representaion#feminist#feminism#art#albinism#blackgirlmagic#model#actress#southafrica#afro#kinkyhair#naturalhair#authenticity#thoughtleader#narratives#change#storyteller#body#representationmatters#voguecover

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She continued: “'We are the ones we have been waiting for.' I'm emotional, because I see progress and get to form part of a progressive story and narrative. I got to a place in my career where I appreciate every specimen of my body and knowing that wherever I go, my existence, the way it is, has always and will always be enough.” She ended her Instagram caption by thanking Vogue Portugal for the landmark opportunity.

In the accompanying cover story, Hapo spoke about whether or not she thinks inclusion in the fashion industry is just a trend. “I do not think that human bodies should ever be called 'trends.' I have a serious problem with people who say albinism is a trend, or vitiligo is a trend. Or people who say ‘It is so cool to be black right now,’” Hopa said. “Human bodies are not disposable.”

Vogue's international counterparts seem to be getting it right when it comes to diversity and inclusion (save for a Kardashian cover here or there). Last year, Naomi Campbell vocalised her belief that there needs to be a bigger platform for the African diaspora on a global scale. “There should be a Vogue Africa. We just had Vogue Arabia — it is the next progression.”

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What You Need To Know About The Latest Abortion Reform Proposals

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All women accessing abortion services in England should be able to choose between a medical or surgical termination, the NHS's official advisory body has said.

All women should also be able to access abortion services without the need for a referral from a GP, the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) recommended in its first ever guidance on abortion.

NICE said that the guidance, which it has developed with the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists (RCOG), is designed to “improve the organisation of termination of pregnancy services, and make it easier for women to access them”.

NICE said that women in England currently face a lack of consistency: while most abortion services allow women to self-refer, some hospitals still require a referral from a GP.

In its draft guidance, NICE advises that GP referrals should be phased out entirely because it can be difficult for women to get prompt appointments.

In addition, NICE says there is evidence that “women may face negative attitudes from healthcare professionals” which “makes it harder to get referrals for termination of pregnancy”.

NICE also recommends that NHS clinical commissioners should consider introducing upfront funding for women who may not be able to afford to travel to abortion services.

Paul Chrisp, director of the Centre for Guidelines at NICE, said in a news release: “Choosing to terminate a pregnancy is an important part of reproductive health for many women, which is why it’s essential that providers are able to offer consistent support and advice.

“Integrating and streamlining services should help improve access for all women, leading to shorter waiting times and allowing earlier terminations. This provides multiple benefits to the woman, including being able to have a medical termination at home.”

Professor Lesley Regan, president of the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists, added: “These guidelines will help to address significant barriers that women experience across the country, by reducing waiting times and making it easier for them to access services. It’s also absolutely vital that more healthcare professionals are trained in this key area of women’s healthcare to ensure services are sustainable in the long-term.”

The draft guidelines have been welcomed by abortion services charity Marie Stopes, which said that the new proposals “will help to improve services and address some of the barriers women face accessing abortion care”.

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Coachella's Biggest Makeup Trend? Glitter, Glitter, & More Glitter

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Besides boho crop tops, denim cutoffs, and Ariana Grande-packed playlists, festival goers at this year's Coachella music festival are on the same page when it comes to glam. Last year, Queen Bey brought out 90's-influenced buns and bubble ponytails, while dewy skin and glowy cheekbones got in formation.

This year, things are looking a little different because glitter is everywhere — and not just on the eyelids. Attendees are getting creative and pairing chunky shimmer with rhinestones, sequins, and jewels to create otherworldly looks fitting for the weekend's over-the-top events.

Global Beauty Director for YSL Beauty, Tom Pecheux says that glitter is the way to go for festivals because it will look good no matter your skill level. "I really love glitter because it makes you think of joy and happiness," he tells Refinery29. "You don't need to be an expert to wear it. It's easy to put on — could be a nightmare to take off — but it's so worth it," Pecheux says.

For festivals that take place in the scorching heat, Pecheux says it's the one thing that won't fail you. "When layering on foundation and other complexion products in the heat, there's always a chance that it will melt off with heat and sweat," he says. "Wearing glitter does the job because it makes you look cool but it won't wear off."

Pecheux recommends playing up your favourite features with glitter and gems while keeping the rest of your makeup muted. This year, festival attendees focused the sparkly stuff mainly on the cheekbones, eyelids, and inner corners. If you're attending weekend two of the festival and still don't know what makeup to pair with your outfit, browse through the blinged-out beauty looks ahead for inspo.

Travel and accommodations were provided by YSL Beauty for the purpose of writing this story.

A few chunky stones along your eyes will take you from festival goer to festival goddess.
A classic cat eye gets the part treatment with a few expertly placed gems.
Pack shimmer along your lids and brow bone for a celestial effect.
Wanna make your cheekbones really pop? Star-shaped sequins will do the trick.
What to do with the leftover glitter on your fingers? Highlight underneath your brows and dust the rest along your hairline.

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The Awesome Way This Woman Is Tackling Period Poverty At Her University

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A woman studying at the University of the West of England (UWE) has used £100 of her student loan to provide free tampons for her fellow students.

Daisy Wakefield, who's studying for a degree in Drawing and Print, said she felt compelled to spend her own money on the sanitary products because the Bristol university had failed to act.

Announcing the scheme on Instagram, Wakefield told followers: “After many emails saying 'I’ll get back to you' or 'I’m not sure', I’m tired of @uwebristol not addressing the crisis that is period poverty in the UK. Therefore, I, Daisy Wakefield have been forced to take matters into my own hands by supplying FREE sanitary products on all @uwebristol campuses.”

Wakefield has designed custom packaging for 4o boxes of free tampons, and distributed them in bathrooms around the UWE campus.

In a follow-up post, Wakefield wrote: “If one student using their student loan can provide, hand make and assemble 40 sanitary boxes, UWE most definitely can.”

The university said in response: “Period poverty is a global issue and we're pleased UWE Bristol students are passionately advocating for change. The university does not currently supply free sanitary products on campus, though we would be pleased to meet with students to understand if there is an emerging need for this.”

Chancellor Phillip Hammond announced in March that free sanitary products will be made available in all secondary schools in England from September.

Dawn Butler, the shadow minister for women and equalities, called the new scheme in English secondary schools “a victory for all those who have campaigned for an end to period poverty”.

“It's a disgrace that period poverty exists in the sixth richest country in the world,” she added.

It was announced earlier today that a similar scheme to provide free sanitary products in Welsh secondary schools will also be rolled out, the BBC reports.

Scotland announced its own scheme making sanitary products available free to school pupils to help “banish the scourge of period poverty” in August 2018.

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Netflix's Special Is A Perfectly Imperfect Portrayal Of Disability & All That Comes With It

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At the start of the first episode of Special, a new Netflix series, the sun is shining, there’s music playing, and a man is walking down the street. Then, he falls. It’s a common enough occurrence, but it’s from there we get our first introduction to the show’s protagonist, 28-year-old Ryan, who walks a little differently from people we’re used to seeing on TV.

“Do you need help?,” a kid asks. “I’m fine,” Ryan says, and goes on to explain his physical disability to the questioning kid and to viewers. This “Do you need help…I’m fine” refrain is an all-too-familiar exchange for me, because like Ryan, I am a 20-something with cerebral palsy. It’s a common call and response, whether I’m climbing up the steps of the subway or simply walking through a doorway.

From the moment it begins, Special, premiering April 12, lets you know you’re in for something different. The show is the streaming service’s first foray into 15-minute episodic comedy and was created and written by comedian Ryan O’Connell. O’Connell also stars in the series, which is inspired by his 2015 memoir I'm Special: And Other Lies We Tell Ourselves. Over the course of eight episodes, the show explores Ryan’s sexuality, independence, and what it means to come to terms with his disability.

Cerebral palsy manifests itself differently in everyone. I do not have the same dexterity issues as Ryan; he is able to walk unassisted, whereas I use forearm crutches for support. I have written dozens of stories for this publication and others, but almost none have mentioned my disability until now. There was no need to. My disability has little to no bearing on my ability to do my job — or so I’d like to think. As Ryan says in Special, “Writing about your own personal shit is scary.” The editor who asked me to write about the show didn’t tell me why she was asking me specifically. She didn’t have to.

“My whole life, CP has been the main course, when really it just needs to be an appetizer — or better yet, taken off the menu altogether.”

Ryan O’Connell in Special

One in four adults in America live with a disability, but GLAAD’s Where We Are on TV ’18-’19 report found only 2.1 percent of primetime broadcast TV series regulars — a total of 18 characters — have disabilities. A 2017 study from the USC Annenberg School For Communication and Journalism found that of the 100 top-grossing movies of 2016, only 2.7 percent of characters were depicted with a disability.

The entertainment industry’s portrayal of disability is flawed. The way journalists write about disability is flawed. Neither Special nor this article can provide a complete fix to either of those things, but both can start to try.

Still, the irony of writing this piece is not lost on me: In Special Ryan takes an internship at EggWoke, an online publication that is shifting from producing listicles to asking writers to exploit their own personal experiences for pageviews. Comedian Punam Patel stars as Ryan’s co-worker and friend, a plus-size brown woman with a love for expensive fashion who is asked to write articles about “loving her curves” all while being as insecure as any woman in her twenties is about almost everything.

The experiences at EggWoke are likely a satirical take on O’Connell’s own experiences as a writer at Vice and Thought Catalog, an early adopter of sensationalised first-person narratives. But Ryan’s decision to lie about the origins of his disability (he tells his coworkers that his physical differences stem from a car accident) makes perfect sense. It’s the same reason why the girl from my high school who was wheelchair-bound for a few months after a sudden illness received news coverage, but when the reporters wrote about her using the school’s single old elevator, they never thought to ask for input from the one other student who had been using it every day for three years.

It’s not newsworthy to say: “I was born with this thing. I’ve had it my entire life. It’s not going to get ‘better’ or ‘worse,’ and I don’t really care what you have to say about it.” It certainly doesn’t endear you to the general public.

Special doesn’t try to be endearing. It’s not afraid to explore the reality of dating and sex, disability or not. In episode 3, Ryan loses his virginity to a male sex worker. The scene is physical and not afraid to show the mechanics, complete with an extra moment before sex for Ryan to open his legs, which often tighten up. It’s awkward, yet fulfilling, much like sex can be.

In episode 7, Ryan’s boss, Olivia (Marla Mindelle) sets him up on a blind date with her cousin, who — unbeknownst to Ryan — is deaf, in the hopes that they might have something in common. They don’t. Ryan later tells Olivia: “I can do better than a deaf guy.” It’s harsh, but the idea behind it is true: People with a disability might want to (and are perfectly entitled to) date an able-bodied person. It’s also true that some able-bodied people may hesitate to date someone with a disability. That’s just reality.

We don’t need to talk about it all the time, but to deny the effects of disability on any one person, those they love, or those around them would be disingenuous. It’s not all good, or bad or fair — it’s just reality.

Despite all that I appreciate about Special, there are a few worrying messages being sent to younger viewers with disabilities. Though in his late 20s, Ryan appears to have no real friends prior to the ones he meets at the start of the series.The emotional implications of the fact that Ryan’s first sexual experience is with a paid sex worker (though he is remarkably gentle and kind) also go unexplored, as does the concept of disability settlement money —which people can receive if they sue doctors or hospitals after the birth of a child. The show contains passing reference to the fact that Ryan has this money, but the complicated realities, both emotional and otherwise, are not discussed.

If the show gets a second season, O'Connell has already said he would prefer it have half-hour episodes. I would hope they tackle more of the micro-difficulties that individuals with disabilities can experience: The constant barrage of well-meaning people saying “Are you sure you don’t need help?” or “You’re such an inspiration,” and the difficulties of doing little things like buying milk at the grocery store, because if you buy it you have to carry it. These experiences are ripe for translation onto television screens.

But overall, the show is a step in the right direction — an honest and flawed show is better than any attempt at a “perfect representation” of disability. It doesn’t shy away from difficult and complex topics, from Ryan’s co-dependence on his mother to the toll of being a caretaker. At the end of the final episode, Ryan’s mother admits that she does blame him for the fact that she doesn’t have much of a life. It’s a horrible thing to say, but there are elements of truth.

In an interview with Vulture, O’Connell said he wants people without cerebral palsy to relate to his story. As anyone who has ever come to terms with being remotely “different” from what society deems “normal” will tell you, no one wants a difference to define them. They don’t want to be tokenised.

In the first episode of Special, Ryan tells his mother (played by Jessica Hecht), “My whole life, CP has been the main course, when really it just needs to be an appetiser — or better yet, taken off the menu altogether.” The line struck a chord for me because it spoke to my own desire to “blend in.” Still, we don’t need to talk about it all the time, but to deny the effects of disability on any one person, those they love, or those around them would be disingenuous. It’s not all good, or bad or fair — it’s just reality.

Special shows what’s real for its cast of characters. They are vulnerable, flawed, and funny. And like all of us, they’re just trying to figure out how to tell the world who they really are, and what makes them special.

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Crimes Involving Dating Apps Have Doubled In Four Years

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Crimes involving dating apps have doubled in some parts of the UK, a BBC 5 Live investigation has revealed.

Using data from 23 of the 43 police forces in England and Wales, BBC 5 Live Investigates found that the number of reported dating app crimes has risen from 329 in 2015 to 658 in 2018.

Of the 658 crimes reported in 2018, 286 were of a sexual nature, a BBC 5 Live producer confirmed to Refinery29. This represents a significant rise from the 156 crimes of a sexual nature reported in 2015.

BBC 5 Live Investigates' programme “The Dangers of Online Dating”, which airs on Sunday (14th April), includes an interview with Debbie Smith, whose daughter Katherine was murdered in September 2017 by a man she had met on a dating app six weeks previously.

The murderer had previous convictions for domestic violence, and Debbie Smith tells the BBC: “They [the dating platforms] should double-check people before they let them onto these sites, it’s so easy. If Katherine had known he had a criminal record, she wouldn’t have gone out with him.”

However, a representative for the Online Dating Association tells the BBC that it's not feasible for apps to do criminal record checks on every user.

George Kidd, chief executive of the Online Dating Association, adds: “A third of relationships start this way and 10 million people use them in the UK. It’s part of our social fabric, [so] we want to celebrate it and make sure it’s safe.”

The Get Safe Online website offers extensive advice on how to stay safe when using online dating apps.

“Going on a date with someone new is an exciting step in a relationship, but continue being careful,” the website advises. “Even if you feel you have become closer to someone via email and phone, you should still remember that this person is largely a stranger to you. Therefore it is important that when meeting someone in person, whether it is your first or fifth date, you take precautions.”

“The safest plan is to meet somewhere public and stay somewhere public,” the website adds. “Make your own way there and back and don’t feel pressured to go home with your date. If you feel ready to move to a private environment, make sure your expectations match your date’s.”

If you have experienced sexual violence of any kind, please visit Rape Crisis or call 0808 802 9999.

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The Best Celebrity Hair & Makeup Looks Coming Out Of Coachella 2019

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Like clockwork, celebrities flock to the California desert every April for a weekend (or two) of sun and outdoor concert-hopping at Coachella. Yes, festival season has officially arrived and, if the flood of palm trees and private jet interiors on your feed is any indication, the most excitable A-listers have already started to trickle down to the valley. Even better, judging by their first round of Instagram posts, this week is going to be full of next-level looks.

Ahead, we've rounded up the best of celebrity Coachella desert style — from models with glowing skin and lace crop tops to A-list actresses dressed down in ripped denim and metallic nail polish. Scroll through for our favourite festival looks, flown in from this spring's most VIP party venue.

Selena Gomez

Selena Gomez's Coachella performance wasn't the only surprise this weekend — she also gave fans an unexpected beauty look with a fresh set of extensions and face-framing braids.Photo: Scott Dudelson/Getty Images
Kacey Musgraves

With a soft smoky eye and loose glossy waves, Kacey Musgraves brought her signature country glamour to Coachella.Photo: Kevin Winter/Getty Images.
Jordyn Woods

Woods kicked off the weekend with gorgeous, bum-skimming braids by Los Angeles-based braider Tanasia McLean.
Elsa Hosk

Currently coveting Elsa's Palm Desert style: minimal makeup and a messy topknot styled with a sexy lingerie top under an oversized Oxford, with chunky dad sneakers to boot.
Jasmine Tookes

Fellow VS model, Jasmine Tookes, is clearly a Coachella pro — choosing a trendy wide brim hat to protect her skin and lush waves from the blazing sun.
Romee Strijd

We knew Romee Strijd had gorgeous hair, but this low-key desert look — bright blonde strands casually flipped over to one side — is further inspiration.
Aimee Song

Suede cowboy boots and a polished low bun might just be this spring's chicest fashion-beauty combo.
Victoria Justice

We're loving the hippie sunnies and the destroyed T-shirt, but our favourite part about Victoria Justice's Palm Desert style has to be her silver chrome manicure.
Shanina Shaik

Model Shanina Shaik looks borderline angelic in white silk and half-up, waist-skimming goddess locs.
Kiana Ledé

If you're heading to the desert, be sure to pack two blinged-out pins to clip back your front pieces. It's the style for spring, and musician Kiana Ledé's Coachella look is proof.

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